1)The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.Theyare most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or otherhairstyle that can easily be grabbed .They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for womenwho's clothing is easy to remove quickly. ?Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women who are on their cell phone, searching through theirpurse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard andcan be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between5:00 a.m. and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery storeparking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.? Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman andquickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry aboutgetting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged becauseit only takes a minute or two for them to realize thatg oing after youisn't worth it because it will be time-consuming
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, orother similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guysyou're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is followingbehind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what timeis it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold outhere", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11)If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of youand yell STOP or STAY BACK !Most of the rapists this man talked to saidthey'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not beafraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER Spray andholding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can byoutsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm(between the elbow and armpit) OR in theupper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taughttold him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out musclestrands - the guy needed stitches.Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; ithurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it isextremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make himwant to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causingtrouble, and he's out of there.
15)When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers andbend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any oddbehavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble
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